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I’m not going to get pissed.

I’m not going to get pissed.

I’m not going to get… oh, fuck it! I’m pissed.

The other day, I noticed that my domain was getting some rather unusual downtime. For my host, who I’ve been with for, oh, a year and a couple of months, any downtime at all was unusual. I contacted my host. She said the higher-ups were upgrading (i.e. - tinkering with all their hosteds’ livelihoods). I figured it’d be over with soon enough. No worries.

Then my baby went down. For an entire day. God help me.

Last night, it finally sprung up, all fresh and purty. Except… something wasn’t right. It was missing a few things. Like, oh, all the changes I’ve mad within the past couple of days. All the comments, all the posts on SEX, the changes made behind the scenes - gone.

Now, it’s rather stupid to get upset over a few posts and comments, but, damnit, I’m upset. I hate repeating myself.

I have an issue I’d like to discuss, but it warrants a disclaimer. This rant is not directed at anyone who is close to me. So, if you comment here and think this is about you, think again. None of my friends annoy me enough to fit into this category. Besides, I’ve been guilty of thinking this way once or twice myself. Anyone guess what I’m talking about?

Blogging is not a popularity contest! You are not the amount of comments you get. You are not the amount of people who link to your website. You are not the amount of hits you get (unique or otherwise).

Let me put this into simpler terms:

You = Human
Blog = Not Human

Your words might be the driving force behind a blog, but it’s not you! Your words might reflect who you are, but they aren’t you!

Stop acting like it’s the end of the world when someone doesn’t comment on your website. Hell, half of my friends have been waiting for me to comment on their website for years. Do I read their blogs? Yes. I just don’t have the motivation or energy to comment. Does that mean I love them any less? No. It just means I’m lazy.

Does nobody read your blog? Get over it! It’s probably not because of you personally. The cliques of the internet aren’t coming together and saying, “Man. That chick/dude really sucks. Let’s not ever read her/his blog.” You’re probably just not putting yourself out there enough. All too often, bloggers expect readers/commenters just to flock to their blogs. Well, they won’t. You have to be proactive.

Seriously. Blogging is not a popularity contest. Stop basing your level of self-esteem on what’s happening with your blog. Step away from the computer, take a look in the mirror, and realize that there’s more to you than a few lines of HTML.