Elyse’s Pet Peeve #1

February 9th, 2008

I have an issue I’d like to discuss, but it warrants a disclaimer. This rant is not directed at anyone who is close to me. So, if you comment here and think this is about you, think again. None of my friends annoy me enough to fit into this category. Besides, I’ve been guilty of thinking this way once or twice myself. Anyone guess what I’m talking about?

Blogging is not a popularity contest! You are not the amount of comments you get. You are not the amount of people who link to your website. You are not the amount of hits you get (unique or otherwise).

Let me put this into simpler terms:

You = Human
Blog = Not Human

Your words might be the driving force behind a blog, but it’s not you! Your words might reflect who you are, but they aren’t you!

Stop acting like it’s the end of the world when someone doesn’t comment on your website. Hell, half of my friends have been waiting for me to comment on their website for years. Do I read their blogs? Yes. I just don’t have the motivation or energy to comment. Does that mean I love them any less? No. It just means I’m lazy.

Does nobody read your blog? Get over it! It’s probably not because of you personally. The cliques of the internet aren’t coming together and saying, “Man. That chick/dude really sucks. Let’s not ever read her/his blog.” You’re probably just not putting yourself out there enough. All too often, bloggers expect readers/commenters just to flock to their blogs. Well, they won’t. You have to be proactive.

Seriously. Blogging is not a popularity contest. Stop basing your level of self-esteem on what’s happening with your blog. Step away from the computer, take a look in the mirror, and realize that there’s more to you than a few lines of HTML.

Posted in E-Smack, Interwebz, Opinions

15 Responses to “Elyse’s Pet Peeve #1”

Sarah
February 9th, 2008 at 12:42 am

Well said my love. People really do need to stfu and just blog sometimes.

You know what I hate more than people whinging about their blogs? when every.single.blog is about how miserable/sick/horrible/diseased they feel. Jesus, the world doesn’t want to hear about your every ailment. IT GETS BORINGGGGGGGGG.

Eh, end rant.

Elyse, however, can blog whatever she wants. ;D Sylar said.

Elyse says: You talked to Sylar? Did he happen to mention wanting to marry or, at least, sex me? No. I’m not obsessed.

*cough* Emo bloggers piss me off. “Oh! Woe is me! My daddy won’t buy me a car. I’ll paint my nails black and listen to My Chemical Romance to get back at him!” Okay, so maybe that’s an exaggeration, but I did come across a blog that was that bad once. It was this chick complaining because her maid got shipped back to her country and the girl’s father was taking too long to hire another one. She was all emo about it. SRSLY.

So, yeah. STFU and blog. Or, as I like to say: Tits or GTFO.

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Jenn
February 9th, 2008 at 1:12 am

I COMPLETELY agree with you on this. I don’t worry about people visiting my site or commenting. Does it make me feel good when I do get comments? Absolutely.. but I don’t fret when they don’t.

And.. *sobs* IS THIS ABOUT ME?

Kidding.

Elyse says: YEAH, JENN. STOP BEING SO EMO ABOUT YOUR BLOG. GAH!

Comments are love, like you said, but people really need to have your attitude about them. They aren’t the end all. They’re just a bonus.

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Dez
February 9th, 2008 at 1:44 am

How dare you direct this at me -cries- /wrist

Elyse says: Just remember, spoons are not good for cutting your wrist. I had to learn that the hard way. *sad*

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Anna
February 9th, 2008 at 2:08 am

When blogging becomes more about how many comments you get rather than just… THE BLOG, you really need to step back and reassess your motivation.

And can I just say a HELLZ YES to the Emo comments?! I can understand that everybody has a bad day sometimes but if I read you last three blog posts and I walk away wanting to slit my wrists I probably won’t be back. Ever.

Elyse says: My motivation: getting hot bitches.

But, yeah, people have forgotten that blogging is, in its most basic form, public journaling, not a comment race. Remember blogging before comments? HA! How did those bloggers survive?

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Danielle
February 9th, 2008 at 2:52 am

Oh dear.. my blog seems kinda in that emo category.. mainly because my life has been a little sucky lately.. but I certainly hope it hasn’t made anyone want to slit their wrists!

And DAMNIT ELYSE, I KNOW THIS POST IS ABOUT ME.
MEMEMEMEMEME.
hehehee.. j/k.. I love you.

But seriously. I love when I get comments, but it doesn’t break my heart when I don’t get new comments. Sometimes people just don’t know what to say. *shrug*

Elyse says: Your blog is not emo, Dani! If it is, I wouldn’t ever read it… which I do… I just never comment… *hangs head in shame*

Oh, and I love you more. Prove me wrong.

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Crys
February 9th, 2008 at 4:27 am

I heart my comments. I get like two or three comments every other week. Eh, I dont care.

The one thing that gets a little bit on my nerves are the ones who apologize for not blogging. Like “Oh, I’m sorry I didn’t blog this week… blah blah blah… ” No need to apologize to me, its your blog, do whatever you want with it.

Elyse says: I do that apologizing thing! But I’m lame, so I have an excuse. LOL!

I might not comment, but I read your site! So… HA! I win!

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Chrissy
February 9th, 2008 at 4:29 am

You’re right. Blogging isn’t a popularity contest, it’s about how much money you can make.

Elyse says: Damnit. Apparently, I suck at blogging.

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Caitlin
February 9th, 2008 at 9:02 pm

Hahaha, you are so great Elyse. I totally agree with you. I have always thought that journaling and blogging were for the individual writing them. If other people would like to read about what they write, that’s great. For me, I just enjoy writing.

Elyse says: Pfft! It’s not about the individual writing them! It’s for comments! COMMENTS, I SAY!

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Stacy
February 9th, 2008 at 11:34 pm

Very very true! *applauds*…. *and boobies*…. *and Sylar!*

Elyse says: SYLAR! *want*

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Chrissy
February 10th, 2008 at 1:49 am

No, you actually have a good blog worth reading. You suck at exploitation.

Elyse says: D’OH! *feels the love*

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Janet
February 10th, 2008 at 7:34 pm

If I cared about the amount of comments I got everyday, I’d probably quit posting in mine.

Elyse says: Word.

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Sarah
February 11th, 2008 at 12:48 am

Remember blogging before comments? HA! How did those bloggers survive?

I was blogging for months before I had a comment that wasn’t from a friend that I told to comment. As it is now, I blog because I want to, not because I want comments.

Elyse says: And because you’re hot. That’s my story, and I’m sticking to it!

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Grax
February 11th, 2008 at 10:34 pm

*sputters*

What the fudge?

When did you get a new blog??

Why was I not informed about this???

How many question marks does one question need????

So uh… What are you doing this weekend?

Elyse says: I’m going to party like it’s 1999! Which actually makes no sense because 1999 really wasn’t very eventful. We need a new catchphrase.

*cough* Yeah, I got this domain last week. It’s awesome. More awesome than awesome. It’s, like, awesomest. Yeah.
I didn’t inform you because… ermm.. I’m lazy. Oops.

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Melissa
February 15th, 2008 at 8:45 pm

But I am a few lines of HTML! I have tattooed on my neck!!

Eh, I’m kidding. That’s the saddest tattoo you could ever get.

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Melissa
February 15th, 2008 at 8:46 pm

*duh*

I wrote HTML tags and they went away when I posted. Now my comment sucks!

(/head)
(body)

is what I meant.

Elyse says: And your nerdiness shines through…

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I don’t rent space to anyone in my head.

Elyse’s Pet Peeve #1

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